Dear Dra. Margie,
Hi hope this e-mail finds you in good health. My problem now is causing a deep gap between me and my boyfriend. It started like this:
We were making love and I was on the verge of sleeping. I was very sleepy that time and not to mention I’m drunk too. He was talking to me that time and at the same time I was dreaming too. In my dream, I was talking to my gay friend and it’s not even a sexual dream.
My bf asked me who he was and in dreaming state I said the name of my gay friend. Now my question is: How do I explain to my bf that I am innocent about his accusations that I wanted my gay friend that night? I love my bf and I would like someone to help us regarding this rift we are going through. Thank you Dra. Margie and more power
Irene
Minamahal kong Irene:
Sasagutin kita muna sa Tagalog at pagkatapos ay sa Ingles, OK? Pasensya ka na lang sana, pero may pagkasimple ang aking payo: Sabihin mo sa boyfriend mo isinulat mo sa akin. Kung hindi pa siya maniniwala rito, siguro mas mabuting maghiwalay na lang kayo. Ang lalakeng ganito kakitid ang utak at/o (and/or) ganito kaistrikto at/o ganito ka-unreasonable (this unreasonable) ay isang lalakeng hindi magbibigay ng kasiyahan o peace sa kahit sino niyang girlfriend.
Lagi mo na lang kailangang ipaliwanag ang lahat ng iyong mga aksyon. Mas mabuti pang walang boyfriend kesa sa isang walang tiwala sa iyo, ‘di ba, Irene? Ingat-MG Holmes.
Dear Irene:
Why don’t you just tell him what you’ve written above? If he can’t understand or can’t accept what you say as true, then I think you should ditch him. Being with a person as unreasonable as he will only lead to more explaining about behaviors other people would take at face value.
Don’t you think it would be far better to have no boyfriend at all, than having one who is more trouble than he’s worth? Take care and tell me how it goes, OK? MG Holmes.
Si Dra. Holmes ay resource person sa Umagang Kay Ganda tuwing Martes sa ABS-CBN. Siya rin ay sumusulat sa Abante TONITE tuwing Martes at Huwebes, at sa Abante tuwing Lunes, Miyerkules at Biyernes. Sulatan siya sa kanyang website www.margaritaholmes.com. Iki
